If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. If you get something from this article, then great, but it was written by me. Videos or graphic images may not be downloaded, copied or duplicated without the express written permission of alcoholics anonymous world services, inc. We have quoted the following passage from alcoholics anonymous before, in our article on the origins of. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a. What ever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our selfpity. The step 4 prayer from how it works page 66 of the big book, alcoholics anonymous. In fact, on paper a lot of resentments look downright stupid.
On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Resentments, inventory, amends and forgiveness 12stepphilosophy. But once theyre down on paper they no longer seem so huge or powerful. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. A person mired in resentment has scant chances of recovering from addiction.
The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. Letting go of resentments before they kill us amethyst recovery. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the 12. In the resentment inventory, dont write across, do it in columns, i. Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have.
Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. Download pamphlets and handouts to use in big book group sessions our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. In the book alcoholics anonymous, it suggests that resentment is the. I see resentment crop up in meetings and out in the world every now and again, as egos and personalities get. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. As in so many things, especially with we alcoholics, our history is our greatest assetwe each arrived at the doors of aa with an intensive and lengthy history of things that do not work today, in aa and in recovery, our history has added an intensive and lengthy history of things that do work and we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. Resentments seem huge and powerful when theyre in your head, note the authors of a program for you, a hazelden study guide to the big book of alcoholics anonymous. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.
Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics anonymous. There is a quote about resentments which gets bandied around in recovery circles from time to time. The big book s way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions.
Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. In the book alcoholics anonymous, it suggests that resentment is the number one manifestation of selfego. And remember that many forms of addiction left unchecked are fatal. I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big books resentment prayer. After all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. Aa recognizes that resentment is toxic to our inner lives. In addition, it was a good place to steal beer and be a big guy with the other kids in school. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away.
This is the official website of the general service office g. Going through the steps with my sponsor, i found i was a resentment. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment. It is so often tempting not to be the bigger person. To be doomed to an alcoholic death or to live on a spiritual basis are not always easy alternatives to face.
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